This time of year is fun for most but hard for many, whether they live with ill health, distress, trauma, are caring for someone, lonely or a multitude of other reasons.

It’s also hard for those living with grief.

We are expected to show gratitude, especially at this time of year and yes, gratitude is an important way to build positive emotions to be emotionally fitter and flourish – it’s a big part of my philosophy and strategies to live life with more mental fitness and clarity – but we can’t just be blankety grateful, especially when living with grief because there is likely feelings of anger, loss and sadness too.

We have to acknowledge those difficult and uncomfortable emotions whilst practising the positive benefits of emotions such as joy, love and gratitude.

We need to hold them in balance and blend them. Acknowledging the difficult emotions of grief but hold in balance an equal positive whilst feeling the negative.

That’s how we can be grateful and grieve. Not just being toxicly positive but balancing and blending our emotions for a healthy balance.

For every difficult thought you feel, balance it with a small moment of gratitude – for the food you eat, call with a friend you have or music you listen to.

I am here to share your pain and create a safe place for you to share the love of those you have lost and to help you shift your mindset around grief to help you live abundantly with it.

If you want to read more about my grief story and gain confidence in how to open up about your own, why not check out my book ‘The Three Taboos: Cancer, Grief & Mental Health’ –

Much love

Tabby xxx

For more grief support check out: The Good Grief Trust, Cruse Support or Samaritans