You know those moments when you just don’t want to adult and would rather slump on a sofa with a cuppa and a pussy cat cuddle? 

Well, we all have them. But that feeling of ‘impending doom’ and ‘can’t be arsedness’ doesn’t have to last all day or longer.

Yesterday I felt quite drained, but soon after those feelings, by implementing my tried and tested helpful coping strategies, I was back to being productive and focussed.

So here’s my how. Here’s how I build my resilience to let those low feelings pass freely and quickly and can be much stronger just moments later. Here’s how I carry on whilst living with grief and my own issues and am able to help and support those around me – people like you.

Most important thing? Breathe and don’t fight it. The more we try and suppress emotions or brush them away the worse it is and longer the bad feelings stay. Accept them, embrace them and let them be.

Take the time out for you to process the emotions. Stop what you’re doing, take some alone time, have a cuppa and that pussy cat (or dog, or anything else) cuddle, read something, listen to music, sit in silence, whatever works for you, just simply have a little time to re-calibrate.

Next, write it down. Just a few sentences to acknowledge the feelings can really help. Then read it back, ask yourself how you could think about things differently. Ask yourself if it’s a particular issue that’s upsetting you or simply your response to the issue. More often than not it’s my response to something that causes me more personal pain. It’s not something that’s actually happened to me, just my response, usually when I’ve reacted not acted. 

Talk and share, either to a human or your pet or stuffed toy! Vocalise your thoughts, because when you hear yourself say them, it can help you rationalise things.

Once you’ve done that, which can take anything from just a few minutes, breathe again, pick something easy and productive to do, make a plan and execute that task. The feeling of productivity brings satisfaction and that’s going to raise your mood. It could be anything from putting the rubbish out to doing that admin task that’s been on your To-Do list for the last month (though if it’s been on your To-Do list that long it’s probably not urgent or important so should be scrapped altogether!).

Giving yourself time and being kind to yourself can really help build resilience and building that resilience is going to be what helps you get stronger and more consistently productive and satisfied.

I had my moment yesterday, it didn’t last long and now I’m ready to move forwards, get shit done and do it with a smile. 

We all have these feelings, but they don’t need to define us.

Hope it helps.

Much love 💚
Tabby xxx