Today I want to share with you a little concept I came up with for those tricky moments with grief. The days when it’s hard to do the basic things.

On those days, and every day, I want you to choose to be a MESS!

That might sound ridiculous… after all it’s easy to feel and be a mess when living with grief… but this is a tactical MESS!

MESS is an acronym I created to remind you to focus on the basic things in those moments.

MOVE – move your body and it helps to move your mind. It’s easy to hide under the duvet or curl up on the sofa with our sadness, so choose to walk, stretch or have a dance in the kitchen.

EAT – what we eat affects how we feel so even if you don’t feel like it, choose to eat something nutritious. Little and often.

SLEEP – we need sleep to heal and grow so make sure you give yourself the best chance even when it’s oh so hard. Consistent going to bed and waking times, use your bed just for sleep time not daytime lounging and hiding (yeah, I’ve done it too!), fresh linen, fresh air and quit the social media scrolling and TV binge watching before you fall to sleep. Listen to a lovely meditation or relaxing sounds.

SMILE – when we purposefully smile we start to re-wire our brain so even when sadness rules, think of something beautiful that makes you smile, watch something funny or have a fun chat with friends. Open your heart up to love and gratitude and manually override your brain.

Do you think you could choose to get MESSy with grief?

Let me know your thoughts.

Much love
Tabby x

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