“I wish it could be how it used to be.”

… this is a phrase that comes up frequently in client coaching conversations.

People wishing life was ‘what they expected’, ‘what they hoped for’ or ‘carrying on in the same way it always has,’ because that’s what is familiar and comfortable.

Of course, when we experience a loss of any sort, often that is a natural thought. I mean, I definitely wish my husband Simon was here, alive and our life was together.

But the reality is he’s not and it isn’t. Life had to change and that’s hard and painful, but that is the reality… and the reality is there is no point me ‘wishing’ it could be ‘how it used to be’ right now… because that doesn’t help me to be mentally fit, productive, PERFORM and flourish in my life now, or in the future.

When things change, we have to make the choice. Be overwhelmed by the event or move forwards with the lessons from it. I choose the latter. I choose change. It’s not easy, it takes daily work but the pay-off is that I can live a flourishing life, have goals and plans for the future, choose the right people and environment for my life AND, instead of only mourning over the loss, I get to appreciate the joy and love and amazing memories there are with a bucket full of gratitude… and that gratitude keeps the feelings of the love and memories alive… even when there is loss and grief.

… and it’s the good feelings we want to feel.

It’s a choice. It’s a change. It’s a conscious mindset. But it is possible and it is definitely worth it to live a mentally healthier life and PERFORM at your best.

… and we can all shift into that mindset.

Are you willing to take the action to move forwards, healthily and happily and PERFORM at your best? Maybe it’s time for us to work together to shift your mindset, build resilience, get comfortable with the changes you need or want to make or learn to live with your grief more comfortably.

You can work with me 1:1 for a month on my Empower Coaching programme for £497. We can do so much in a month together. Sign up now at: https://sowl.co/s/bc8LVk

Much Love

Tabby x