Sometimes it’s hard to know what to say and do when someone is experiencing something tough so here’s a few pointers.

Following a traumatic event people may have trouble sleeping, eating, processing and talking, or the opposite may be true.

The experience may bring up past experiences and pain.

There may be thoughts of “what if?”

There is a complex mix of symptoms someone might experience and there is no right or wrong way for them to behave.

Give them the time, space, support and safety to manage their emotions as they need to without judgement.

It is normal for symptoms to last around 2 weeks after a traumatic event so allow that time and encourage someone to look after themselves with rest, hydration, some gentle activity, nutrition and connection.

Give them the space to process whilst checking-in with genuine concern and support and show this in your words and actions. Don’t burden, criticise or blame them. Ask them what they need and how you can help them best.

If after 2 weeks symptoms are still prevalent then signposting to further help may be helpful.

Don’t let your own judgements, beliefs and experiences become a block to the way you can support someone else.